He Loves, He Loves Me Not!

Is this your first Valentine’s Day with your sweetheart, or are you spending it alone? Do you celebrate  Valentine’s Day or do you ignore the day?

Do you ever wonder who invented this day and why did he or she? Did you know that Geoffrey Chaucer, was the first to bring a Romantic aspect, to Valentines day in the High Middle Ages. I think I was born in the wrong time frame, because to this day, and I’m old I’ve not had ONE Romantic Valentine’s Day!

Oh sure I’ve tired to be romantic, to bring a night of passion and love to my marriage. I donned  the corset teddy, put the kids to bed early, made a nice steak dinner for him to walk into my bedroom and find him watching TV.

“Sorry I’m a little tired, doesn’t that thing hurt?”

Not saying a word I turned and walked out of the bedroom. That was the last time I celebrated Valentine’s Day, two years ago.Oh, don’t feel sorry for me, it was my wake up call. I cried and slept on the couch that night, but it made me realize many things.

  So this year and from now on I concentrate on me and my kids. I have joined a gym, I am surrounding myself with things I want.

You ask what I will be doing this year? I will be curled up with a good, hot book, dreaming of the one day Mr. Right will come along and sweep me off my feet.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world

cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt

with the heart.”

~Helen Keller

When I give my heart again, I want it all, the candles, the romance, the whole fantasy. I won’t settle again, I deserve better, what about you? Do you dream of the fantasy or do you have it already? Tell us about your perfect day and leave a comment to win my contest. But don’t forget to follow me on twitter at

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May your love and your partner’s be ever lasting and may your love grow to encompass those around you. Have a wonderful romantic day.

Trinity Blacio

   First I would like to thank all of you for participating in the blog hop and I  hope everyone won something.

My winner of the blog hope is Angel. Congrats to her, I’ve already sent her an email notifying her.

I want to wish each of you a wonderful Christmas-Holiday! For all my fans, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

The best and most beautiful things in

the world cannot be seen or even

touched. They must be felt with the

heart.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

For this blog hop please click on the contest page and do what is said on the Rafftor.

Make sure to tell us what part of the holiday is your favorite below also!

Off to write! Have a great holiday, Christmas, New Year!

Thank you all Trinity Blacio

Fall is upon us and October is over all ready! With this Halloween is now done and so are the blog hops! It was fun entering over two hundred contests! Wow, I’ve never done that before! But with all this done I have Contest winners to announce! 

LINDA KISH is the winner of my 

Spooktacular Giveaway Hop

RENEE BENNETT is winner of my

Bewitching Trick-or-Treat Blog hop!

Winner of my Romance Studio Halloween bash is

Mimi Wolske!

Now that does not mean I didn’t win, because that is far from the truth! I won a few prizes also.

Summerland

Desi Moon
http://dbmoonauthor.blogspot.com/

The Sixth Seed by Lee Allen Howard

Indie Snippets giveaway

Now and Forever 1 (A Love Story)

Jean Joachim

Thank you all for participating and the gifts you are all amazing! 

So, what are your little goblins, going to be for Halloween this year? Did you go all out and make their costume, buy it, or make use of what was at home? My son has decided he is going as a pedestrian. I said, “What? People are not going to give you candy for going as a pedestrian, please. I told him to go as a football player, he has the jersey, cleats, pants, socks and we can put that black crap under his eye’s too, but he said no. He was not going to do that unless he had his pads, and helmet. WHAT EVER!

What costumes do you remember when you were smaller? I remember this one costume the kid was dressed up as a whopper. It was perfect! I never laughed so hard. Then there was a kid who dressed up as a brick. Do you know why? Mind you this was over thirty years ago? Pink Floyd ring any bells? Another Brick In the Wall

Oh lets us not forget the cute costumes! One year my daughter dressed up as a McDonald’s french fry. Oh yes! You should have heard of all the oh how cute! Then there is the one years she went as Angelica, on the Rug Rats, of course we had to tell everyone who she was. But I think the cutest costume I saw was baby smurf. Someone had their tiny baby all dressed up in a blue smurf outfit. He was so cute!

Contest time! Tell me your funniest or cute costume you remember, and you will be entered in my contest for ten ebucks on All Romance Ebooks and a copy of one of books, including one of my new ones if you want it.

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Scary Fact!

I’m sitting here, wondering what to write about for my Halloween blog post. When I realize, that this will be the first year, I will not be walking my children around for Halloween!

I”m OLD!

I have teenager kids, I see gray in my hair, and that bump around my waist it’s not going away!

So what does a mom do with the kids out trick or treating? I’m waiting someone give me a clue here, because I really don’t have any idea. I mean I could get me a nice bottle of wine, turn on the Sci-fi channel and watch the Halloween movies all by myself. Or I could put on a costume and hand out candy, nope don’t like that. Done with the little ones.

Could hog tie husband and do some scary things to him, but sigh, he has to work so he’s off limits.

Is there a place where old mom’s go on Halloween to party or something? I mean there must be some where us women can get together and have a good time?

Oh I know, I can follow the four hundred some blogs and enter all the contests to see what adult goodies I can win! Hands off kids!

Now, all I have to do is find my candy corn, I hid from the kids so I would have something good and fat free to munch on at Halloween, while they eat all that candy with those nasty calories in it.

I hope all of you have a great Halloween where ever you are, be safe! Remember to win five dollars at All Romance Ebooks, and a copy of your choice of one of my books, please leave a comment this week for a chance to win!

Here is where I will be this month!

Come visit me and see if you win something!

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The last few years I have hibernated at home, only to venture out to Lori Foster’s Gathering, once a year, to meet my fellow authors and readers. Well I’ve decided to do more next year going to other conventions, example Romantic Times, RomFest, and Author’s After Dark Conventions. Then the other day someone posted about a convention I’ve never heard of, Frolicon.

As I write Erotic and tend to be o the dark side of writing this new convention is a very interesting convention to me, but as I scan the website I get the butterflies in my stomach and I am questioning going alone to something like this?

SOOO question to you authors out there that write Erotic or Erotica! Would you go? Would you go alone, bring your other half? What if a group of authors were organized and you went with them? Now do you think it would be worth going? Because from what I’ve seen many are interested and are into the kink aspect, just look at Fetlife with over a million people as members!

As authors isn’t this an untouched source? For me personally it does not phase me, but I don’t have a spouse who has any say anymore in what I do. So I go where I want and to tell you a little secret it sounds like fun!!

Well, tell me would you go, or even consider it?

Sorry this has not been edited just wanted to get a discussion going today.

Trinity/Maria/Selene!

Bewitching Trick or Treat Blog Hop

Stay tuned for Authors and further information.

Part two: Interview with A Master, Dennis Najee

Today I am speaking with Dennis Najee, creator of “An Owned Life” website, author of An Owned Life, Sexual Motivation, Erotic Humiliation, Words of Submission and Master are just some of the pursuits Sir delves into. To learn more, order his books, or to even speak to Sir, links are below.

An Owned Life

His Books

Dennis’s Blog

Facebook

Please tell us a little bit about your background as a Master/Dom.

“I was introduced into this lifestyle in the late 1990s. At the time, I was not online so I was unfamiliar with the BDSM world other than some images I had seen over the years. Of course, the leather culture and some of the extreme pictures floated around for decades, and that is the outlook I had. Honestly, I had no idea what this life entailed.

I got involved with it by accident. As mentioned, I had no clue it existed so I was proceeding forward with the traditional mindset i.e. I was looking for the marriage, the white picket fence, etc… I got involved in a relationship with a woman who was a slave at one time. Obviously, I was looking for vanilla but she opened my eyes to what it is all about.

We were together just over 3 years. During this time, she assisted in my training. I learned the ins and outs of psychological control since she really didn’t want to be dominated through fear (no onyourkneesbitch attitude). I believe this background served me well over the last 13 years or so.

I waffled back and forth throughout the years. There was still the traditional mindset deep within me. This taught me how powerful societal conditioning is. Even though I felt completely at home within the BDSM structure, somehow I felt I ought to give the other a chance. Thus, I exited the BDSM arena whenever I met someone who I thought might be ‘the one’. Fortunately, these did not last and, after the last nightmare, I was thoroughly convinced this is where I belong.

I have owned 5 slaves over the years. My preference in relationships is total power exchange within the M/s structure. I had not had much success in dealing with others solely on a D/s level. To me, that leaves too much open for drifting back into a vanilla relationship. I see control is something that is an absolute. Other opinions may vary, but this is the standard I set for myself and my interactions.”

How long has it been a part of your life?

“Thirteen plus years.”

Were you influenced by others around you?

“Initial influence was a relationship with a slave. After that, personal interaction both within the confines of M/s, plus meeting other lifestyle people added to my knowledge. Finally, over the last 7 years or so, the online world has provided a wealth of information, and ideas for me to consider.”

Are you a Master/Dom 24/7?

“Master, poly, 24/7.” You ask what Poly is? Well I went digging and I found this posted in the group Poly Relationships by Sir. “It is amazing to me that the concept of polyamorous relationships is so foreign to people in society.  When it comes to love, we are taught that it is limitless.  However, we then are told that romantic love is limited only for the special person.  What is the difference?  Love is love.

I use the example of multiple children.  When one is an only child, he or she receives total love from the parents.  Now what happens when a baby brother or sister is introduced?  Is the first child loved 50% less since the love needs to be shared?  Of course not.  The time might be split but the love is not.

The same thing occurs in poly situations.  A person does not love another less because a third is introduced.  Love can expand and grow without barriers.  Only the fearful pretend it cannot.”

How does one know she or he is a submissive? Or for that matter a Master?

“Submissiveness (like domination) is a quality. I feel it is something inherent in us. One does not become submissive but, rather, uncovers it. My belief is that is what is at a core of a sub/slave. When one delves deep, it is what is found.

Entry into the BDSM world starts with the journey inward. Too many focus upon the interaction with others. Sadly, this is a recipe for disaster. Can you imagine the success rate of vanilla relationships if everyone was questioning their sexual orientation? It would be a mess. But we see that all the time in BDSM. Until one is sure what he or she is, how can any interaction with another take place. Therefore, figure out what you are…it is there if one looks.”

Many people believe that BDSM is all about the extreme, pain, torture can you explain the different levels for us please.

BDSM is none of those things you mentioned. Rather, they simply aspects of the lifestyle.

BDSM is about growth. Anyone who gets into a relationship (bdsm) is presented with the opportunity to grow as an individual, assist in the growth of the other person, and partake in the growth of the relationship. If there is no growth, there is nothing.

Many seem to think that people involved in BDSM, especially on the submissive side, are weak. Nothing is further from the truth. BDSM is about depth. Whenever I see those who say ‘I am not a doormat’, I know they are dealing with the online pretenders. No true Master/Dom wants a weakling. Those who are seeking someone of this ilk are weak themselves. It takes strength to control someone strong. And, the more a slave grows, the more that is required from the Master in terms of his own personal growth. Nevertheless, this isn’t on the minds of most people. Instead, they want to get laid and that is it. While there is nothing wrong with that, it is not bdsm. We will call it what it is, kinky sex.

As for the levels, the physical is what is stroked by the common BDSM view (the whips, chains, etc.). However, any relationship that centers around that grows stale quickly. The same thing is said for the sexual end of things. In the beginning, when relationships are new, sex is hot, heavy, and often. Like in the traditional world, if that is all there is, relationships tend to die. We, as humans need more. That is where the psychological and emotional enter the picture.

Those who are truly schooled in domination know that to dominate someone, one much take over psychologically. To do this requires trust, effort, consistency, and honestly. Those who are playing at this never approach these levels. They only have physical control which is terminated once there is geographic distance. The other eclipses all time and space.”

How can someone explore this side of themselves with so many nut cases out there without getting hurt?

“It is easier than one realizes. To start, I suggest one never get involved with anyone else, especially online immediately. This seems like common sense but it isn’t. Most jump in to a relationship to decide if this life is for them. As mentioned, the journey starts with an internal look as opposed to an outward focus. Few seem to get this.

Therefore, time is something that most need to utilize. Read, watch, ponder, and process are all buzzwords. On my site, we spend a great deal of time exposing the antics of the nut cases. Their patterns are rather obvious once one knows what to look for. We try to forewarn people what occurs. Spending the time learning what is going on is extremely important.

Another thing that I believe people need to rid themselves of is the notion that ‘I am different’. What I mean by this is that many seem to think that the stuff we write about does not pertain to them. I cannot tell you how many times I was told ‘but you don’t understand’. Let me tell you, I have not seen everything, but I have seen a lot. And trust me when I say that I understand all too well. Most people are following a pattern that was tried over and over. The online crowd is not creating something new. So the old adage applies, if it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, let’s call it a duck.

We write what we do because that is what applies to most of the situations we saw over the years. While I will admit that occasionally the fairy tale does come true, it is a rarity. More often than not it is someone blowing smoke. The games, especially online, are endless. We must always remember how easy it is to create an online persona. The anonymity of the Internet provides people the ability to become whomever they want almost instantly.

So watch, read, learn, and listen. That is best way to avoid the nut cases. Their tactics become rather obvious. And time, when interacting with them, also helps to flush them out. The game players do not spend a lot of time interacting. They use speed as their main weapon. Slow things down and your chances are greatly increased of dealing with someone sane.”

Would you recommend a new person go to a private club?

“This is a question that is difficult for me to answer since I am not a fan of clubs based upon my personal experiences. I will say that safety is always the highest consideration in whatever we do. If one does go to a club, as a new person, it is best to go and observe. Do not get involved in any scenes the first time or two. Then, if it is something that you want to try, be sure you are aware of the credentials of the person scening with you. In fact, I recommend always being with someone you know and not allowing anyone unfamiliar to you to interact with you in this manner. Forget what their supposed qualifications are. You need to protect yourself.”

Why did you create the website?

“An Owned Life is the name of my first lifestyle book. I created the social site as a way to disperse true information about the lifestyle to those who are genuinely interested. The meat markets were already covered; I envisioned a site where those who wanted more than just a quick lay and games could come and interact. Thus far, that was achieved.”

Finally, how candid are you to those surrounding you about your lifestyle?

“I am open, but I do not go around promoting my lifestyle choices. My family is unfamiliar with the dynamics of my relationship and I intend on keeping it that way. I always tell people, no matter how open your family; the odds are they will not understand. Thus, I am open with those in the lifestyle but secretive outside of it.”

I personally want to thank Dennis Najee for taking the time to answer my questions and his honesty. Once more I was amazed how friendly and honest the people at, An Owned Life are. So if you do have questions, or are just curious stop by and talk to them, or order Dennis’s books if you are still too nervous to speak to anyone.